We really do and I am really appreciative for it. So big thanks to both Curtis and JMWW. And how about some excerpt? Word.
CS: Most of the pieces focus on us middle-aged types—yet many of these characters carry ghosts of their earliest sexual histories. Do you think our sexual histories are different than our other histories? Can we ever truly get beyond them—or do you think they’re imprinted, a kind of touchstone, forever part of the fabric of who we are?
BT: I think our sexual histories are part of a continuum of our histories in general, every step, and misstep, every slight, and moment of positivity, all imprinting on us in different ways, compounding and building on themselves, leaving us with a world of feelings and memories, regrets and choices that both affect our current decision making, as well as our confidence, and the paths we are on. Where sexual histories might be different than other types of history however, is that for much of our life, most of us spend as much time thinking about sex—how we can get it, and keep it, why something works one day in bed, and not the next, or with one person, or not another—as much as anything—work or children, dreams and hopes—and so in that way it warps who we are along the way, and who we might yet be, even when, if, we reach a place where our sex lives are healthy and fulfilling. So do we get beyond our sexual histories? Most of us yes, and no, we stop caring quite so much about it, and we are liberated in that way, but we still wonder about the opportunities that slipped away, and where and when things went wrong, or bad. Those things always linger.